Time and time again, when I ask working moms what is most difficult in finding balance their response is almost always connected to not being able to do everything on their to do list. It is wondering how they will maintain productivity as a working mom on the hardest and longest of days.
It is also trying to live up to this definition of a perfect working parent that is able to run an 8–10-hour work shift, get home and tend to the home with a smile from side to side. But balance is WAY more than that. Check out this blog post all about work life balance.
Here is the reality: it’s nice to see pictures of the perfect tidy home and moms on Instagram super happy getting things done for their kids. However, this is not always the case. There are better days, there are worse days. There are days when the house will stay a hot mess. But then there are days when you are getting sh*t done.
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Acknowledge your workload
It’s very important to acknowledge everything working moms have to do on a daily basis. The mental load of remembering their home responsibilities, work tasks and kid’s activities can truly take a toll overtime if you don’t have a good system to manage it. Our minds are literally on the go, all the time. So cut yourself some slack!
In today’s blog post, I’m going to share 4 important ways to keep going after a long day [and through different societal pressures you may feel]. Again, remember, it’s so easy to find YouTube videos where moms are “doing it all” and hearing what other moms are doing on the day to day.
But I want you to remember that everyone’s productive schedule is DIFFERENT. It will not be the same because we all have different aged kids – different interests – and different responsibilities.
Here are 4 methods I follow to help me not go crazy when mama over here is not able to get everything done.
4 different methods
- Stay Disciplined – this is where mindset comes in. Listen, in absolutely anything you do, your biggest asset will be your mindset. It will be what truly keeps you going. This will take routine building that eventually becomes a habit. That could be a morning routine with 4 items and an evening routine with 4 items. If you get more done, then great, if not, also great.
- Realistic – create to do lists that make sense to YOU and your schedule. If you work late hours, then focus your morning time on cleaning. But if you leave to work early in the day, then the evenings will work best. Also, if you know you are more of an evening person as is, just don’t try and create a long to-do list in the morning – you are setting yourself up for failure.
- Share in the responsibilities – you don’t have to do it alone. This can include your partner/ spouse or whoever lives with you. You can also include your kids (depending on age). I learned the hard way to delegate. I did not need to do everything!
- Let go of what can’t get done – you WON’T get everything done all the time. If you work full-time and long hours, it’s impossible for YOU to do everything. You will need to still make a list so you can complete priority items but don’t put yourself down as a mom if you can’t get to everything. You also have KIDS. Life is so unpredictable with kids that things are constantly changing, that is okay!
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The message here is to be kind to yourself. Yes, create a plan, stay as organized as can be, build habits but also create room for flexibility. And please, don’t try to do what you think you should be doing as a working mom but rather the things that work for you and truly bring you joy and happiness.
Are you working on any of these? Any of these particularly difficult? Let me know in the comments below.