In our recent podcast episode, we had the privilege of sitting down with the insightful Dr. Gertrude Lyons, a life coach and podcast host known for her work in helping individuals rewrite their mother code. Mothering with life coach Dr. Gertrude Lyons.
During our conversation, we delved into the profound distinction between “mothering” and “motherhood” and explored the obstacles that mothers often face when it comes to practicing self-care and self-love.
Dr. Lyons shared invaluable wisdom on cultivating self-compassion, understanding our emotions, and the importance of self-awareness in our journey as mothers. Join us as we unpack the transformative insights from this enlightening discussion.
1:20 – Introduction of Dr. Gertrude Lyons
1:55 – Give us more on your background and how you got started with life coaching
10:10 – Based on your experience, what does it mean to mother and to do it “well?”
15:50 – If someone is in the self-discovery phase as a mom but feels stuck, what suggestions would you give?
20:40 – Another tip if feeling triggered (identifying your emotions)
26:00 – Nelly provides her insight, and Dr. Gertrude talks more about self awareness and history on why you feel the way that you do, and what you can do about it
28:10 – What does it mean to rewrite the mother code
32:50 – How can everyone connect with Dr. Gertrude
The Mothering vs. Motherhood Paradigm
Dr. Gertrude Lyons emphasized the crucial difference between mothering and motherhood, challenging the conventional notion that motherhood begins only when you have children. Mothering, as she explained, is a universal trait within us all, characterized by the actions we take to nurture and care for others, regardless of whether we have offspring.
This distinction highlights the innate caregiving nature within us and encourages us to appreciate the various forms of mothering that exist in our lives.
Breaking Free from the Guilt of Self-Care
One of the most significant challenges mothers face is the overwhelming guilt that often accompanies self-care and self-love. Dr. Lyons addressed this issue by stressing the importance of self-compassion. She reminded us that as mothers, we are constantly learning, and it’s okay to prioritize our well-being.
By offering ourselves the same kindness and understanding we extend to others, we can alleviate the guilt associated with taking time for self-care.
The Power of Self-Awareness
Lastly, self-awareness emerged as a central theme in our conversation with Dr. Lyons. She underscored that the first step in nurturing ourselves is recognizing our emotions. By identifying moments of frustration or anxiety, we gain valuable insights into why we feel a certain way. T
his self-awareness is a crucial foundation upon which we can build healthier, more fulfilling lives.
Conclusion: Nurturing Ourselves for a Fulfilling Motherhood Journey
Our conversation with Dr. Gertrude Lyons shed light on the profound nuances of mothering, motherhood, and self-care. It reminded us that as mothers, we must prioritize self-compassion and self-awareness. By doing so, we can rewrite our own mother codes, breaking free from societal constraints and embracing a motherhood journey that aligns with our authentic selves.
In a world that often glorifies sacrifice and martyrdom in motherhood, Dr. Lyons’ insights serve as a beacon of hope for mothers everywhere, encouraging us to prioritize our own well-being and happiness on the path to becoming the best mothers we can be.
Remember, it’s not just about being a mother; it’s about nurturing and loving ourselves in the process.
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