My Story

Two of my greatest life passions have always been education and motherhood. My road to motherhood was not the easiest but something I always dreamed of since I was a little girl. At the same time, I’ve always been an “on the go” type of person (or so I think my family would say). Where I could never stay still because I wanted to be doing more and more and more.

I had big dreams, big desires and big passions. I’ve loved building my career the last 7+ years in teaching, mentoring young adults, and now the world of entrepreneurship during the latter half of my 20s.

But all of that came into question as soon as I was ready to have kids. This idea of building a family while also building a career almost seemed negative whenever I spoke to others (even moms) or would see on media and social groups. The argument being that working moms would not be able to handle all their responsibilities or be fully attentive to their kid(s) the way they would need them to be.

But why would I not be able to manage all the responsibilities? And why would I not be able to give my kids attention?

Listen, I was determined to show the world they were wrong. In retrospect though, I didn’t need to prove anything to anyone, but myself. I realized that a few months down the line.

I had my son in March of 2021, and I was ready to conquer the world. But and although I did not want to admit it…I was quickly miserable, overwhelmed and burnt out. I was trying to do it all, all the time, at the same time! You would see me committing to work events, and trying to multitask at home: spending time with my son, partner, cleaning, cooking etc.

I hated this feeling because I felt like I was saying “sh*t you (society) were right.” BUT I reminded myself that this was the narrative thrown at us working moms not the one we have to live by.

Pivotal Moment

One morning, while getting ready for work, I had a complete melt-down.

Imagine this…

Me (pregnant with my 2nd child) with my phone calendar buzzing with reminders of 3 work commitments, my son crying on me because he is teething and had a difficult night, my partner already off to work (he’d leave at 5am) and a pile of dishes (that I said I’d do that morning).

Mind you, at the time, my son would go to work with me, and his dad would pick him up by 3pm. Man…I had so much anxiety, I was so tired, and I simply put my son down on his swing, went to the other room and started to cry…a lot.

I told myself, no Nelly, this isn’t going to be how you live life, this life you manifested, desired and wanted too so bad. You have to figure it out!

From that point forward, I started to do things differently.

I analyzed what the hell work life balance meant and why it was so “impossible” for working moms and I started to ask myself deep questions. How is it that you feel NOW and how is it that you WANT to feel?

In the process, I developed the SPA System. With puts together everything I did in order to start feeling alive and off this “survival” mode that I thought was normal.

• building a stronger mindset: removing self-limiting beliefs, all that negative talk and lack of forward thinking
• showing love to myself first including my mind, body and soul
• condensing my to do list in an intentional and realistic way
• leaning of my support team
• setting stronger boundaries

and loads more…

After just 1 month, my life began to change. I figured out the missing pieces. I did the inner work. I created a system around the steps that I took. I am doing the “impossible.”

And I am now here to show you how you can TOO.